Posts by Well Beyond
“If you are scared to lose, then that’s where things fall apart” – Taylor Fritz
Yesterday I posted about overcoming the fear of failure. Later in the day, while watching the docuseries Break Point, I heard American tennis pro Taylor Fritz comment about his early loss at the 2022 U.S. Open, “I’m playing too much not to lose. Not playing enough to win. If you are scared to lose, then…
Read MoreOvercoming Fear of Failure
You dreamed a big dream. You’ve set a high goal for yourself. Now what? It is easy to become demoralized when you do not see progress toward your goal. But change is slow and often undetectable to our eager and analytical minds. Nonetheless, when we consistently apply our thoughts and energy toward our goals, we…
Read MoreChoose your coping strategy consciously
It’s Friday afternoon. For many of us, phew, it is the kick-off to some well-deserved time over the weekend to step away from work and recharge our batteries. As you are shutting down for the day, perhaps there is something bothering you. There’s a project not going well or a difficult work relationship, or maybe…
Read MoreInnovation thrives when vision and values are clear and autonomy is high
You are a leader in a new role, or maybe you are taking on a big new project. You want things to go well, to unfold as you envision, but you also want your team to stick with you through the challenge. You know that statistics show that engagement at work is suffering. You don’t…
Read MoreSeeking your next big move? Meander a bit.
My goal as a coach is to meet you exactly where you are, which includes the moments when you don’t know where you are. In my coach training, life was compared to a game of cards. When you know what you want, you are playing your hand. But this state of play is preceded by…
Read MoreTrauma, loss, healing and growth
In several recent group sessions, I have presented about the idea of post-traumatic growth, pioneered by psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun in the 1990’s. Post-traumatic growth is an alternative response to post-traumatic stress disorder: after an individual has experienced a severely painful life event or loss, he or she comes out the other side…
Read MoreGratitude as an antidote for negative mood
Two months ago I started a daily gratitude practice. I made this commitment because thinking intentionally about gratitude has not come naturally to me. Growing up I did not really learn to be thankful for what I had, and whether that lesson was not taught well or I missed it is up for debate. But…
Read MoreRemember to breathe
The most readily-available treatment for anxiety is our breath. It is also the least expensive intervention and has no adverse side effects. So why is it so hard to utilize this natural tool? Personally, I am not an expert breather. In fact, I often breathe shallowly and sometimes hold my breath without realizing it. Over…
Read MoreFinding calm and freedom within
I have had two ah-hah moments practicing yoga that I am inspired to share with you today. I grew up dancing, spending hours each week in the local ballet studio of my hometown, so it was not a great stretch for me to take an interest in yoga as an adult. I have dabbled with…
Read MoreWhat is the role of positive psychology today?
In the wake of the tragedy of George Floyd’s murder and the national and international outcry about his death and so many other grave injustices stemming from racism, I am humbled and contemplative about how practitioners of positive psychology, myself included, can participate in this dialogue in a voice that sounds anything but trite or…
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